Recognize old stories, break the spiral, and grow into the life you’re meant to live.

After my divorce, I did deep inner healing work to reclaim my self-worth and grow into self-love. But here’s the thing about inner work — it is not a one-and-done.

As I continue scaling my business, nurturing relationships with family and friends, and pouring into my clients, the human side of me surfaces when things feel hard. That is when I am most vulnerable.

I realized that the old stories I had believed since childhood and throughout my marriage — “Whatever I do is not good enough” and “I am not worth anyone’s time or money” — were simply not true.

I am one with God. I am connected to Spirit. This power beats my heart and breathes through my lungs — I don’t choose to do either of those things. So I learned to lean into Truth with a capital T:

I AM loved. I AM enough. I AM worthy. I AM beautiful.

The tricky thing about old stories is that they resurface. The key is to notice when they come back — stop the spiral, and re-pattern your thinking back to the Truth. Like I said, it is not one-and-done.

We must stand guard over our thoughts every day, every moment. As Emerson said, we must “stand guard at the portal of our minds.” Thank your old stories for bubbling up — they were trying to keep you safe — then gently return to the truth.

Here’s the most powerful reframe: when those old stories surface, that is actually good news. It means you are standing at the edge of your comfort zone. You are growing into something beautiful, something aligned with the deepest desires of your heart.

So when I say this work is not one-and-done, I mean it in the most empowering way. There is no finish line because we are growing in awareness every single day — taking steps toward a life we truly love. Those thoughts that pop up? They are not setbacks. They are signs that you are aligning, expanding, and stepping into the life you are striving for.